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You start new projects, but you never finish them. Starting something and not finishing it can feel like a curse. What happened that this pattern became what is? What got you here will not necessarily get you there. Teal Swan, an expert in human development and relationships, calls these the gatekeepers. The road to getting what you want isn't a straight line. I love the spark of starting something new ⭐! The excitement... The passion... The clarity... The motivation... The flow... But then... The challenges come. All the clarity, excitement and momentum stop. A different emotion settles in. And I hit a wall. What do you do at this point? For me, I get depressed, frustrated, and dread the work. Then, I forget about it and soon after start the next thing... And, to go a layer deeper... This is how I've been relating with others. 💔 Whenever the thing gets challenging... poof!!! 💥 I disappear and put my attention somewhere else. And the cycle repeats. There's a genius behind this strategy. I'm calling this strategy "The Path of Least Resistance". But, it reaches a point in adulthood when it doesn't work anymore. The pile of unfinished projects and relationships becomes harder and harder to avoid. What are you avoiding? What is behind the wall? What is the wall communicating? This pattern doesn't mean you're broken. It's not about fixing yourself. It just means you have a pattern, a strategy that doesn't align with your values. And now, as an adult, you can do something about it. These 3 major things changed the game for me: 1) FIND YOUR TEAM — Look for team members who are better in the areas where I wasn't good at, like continuing, deepening and running a project. Curate your top 5. Find your team. Form your 3-cell. 2) LEARN HOW TO FEEL — I didn't know I was feeling and suppressing anger and other emotions. I was using anger, sadness, fear and joy unconsciously and creating a mess. A great starting point is to join a Rage Club. 3) DISMANTLE YOUR RESENTMENTS — I was resenting my teammates, blaming them for the projects not working. Dismantling my resentments helped me take back my unconscious expectations about others, myself and life. Here's how you will continue NOT finishing what you started. → Staying in your comfort zone → Justifying your stories that you are good at starting → Resenting your teammates and the universe for not finishing the thing for you → Just reading, accumulating "knowledge" and not experimenting So, let's get moving, shifting, going non-linear. Let's play! Love, P.S.: If you want to join my Regenerative Project Support Empowerment Team, it's starting in April. P.S.2: If you want to work 1:1 with me, simply reply to this email and let me know what you see. P.S.3: Are you coming to the Expand The Box in Vancouver? It's a 5-day immersive training for getting the skills and melting down the crystalized parts of your box that keep us stuck in old thoughtware. See you there! |
Jorge Pedret
I'm a Gameworld Builder who resiliently explores the edges of culture, parenting, relationships, and personal development. Receive my news, updates and events directly in your inbox.
8 years ago Around this time I became a dad for the first time. Today is my birthday as a dad So, what do you call that? Birth-dad? Father birthday? Dad-day? Anyways… In my family's culture this is day we parents celebrate. We celebrate the day the parents became parents. For the first, second, third, or tenth time… Being a parent will push you to the furthers edges of life. And I mean this! The brightest places. And the darkest places too. Come on people, We're talking about what life is...
Hey, my weekly support and empowerment team is starting next week. We focus each week on one team member's projects. Reply "teamwork" to this email, and I'll send you the details. Ok, let's be blunt. Humans have feelings and emotions. You can stop hiding now. Humans are way more irrational and unreasonable than we like to think. → The way that we buy stuff... → The way we choose our partners... → The way we make friends... → And just generally the way we make decisions... These are all...
You are carrying seeds of regenerative culture… You are building cool stuff… You are either in the design phase… Or you are actively experimenting with your design… You want to collaborate with others… A support team to help you build this thing… A core team to create a regenerative ecosystem… You’ve learned that doing it by yourself is not regenerative. You might be facing challenges with:- Navigating emotions within yourself and the team - Burnout, discouragement, fatigue - Going in...